Overcoming Obstacles 2-3

 

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People around us influence us whither we like it or not. They influence our way of thinking, our decisions, therefore the outcomes we receive.

Surround yourself with people who can help you achieve your goals. If you know where you at and if you know where you want to be you will need to start moving on. If you surround yourself with people who are going to the same destination then the journey will be easier and you will reach your destination faster. For example, if your goal is to have an athletic body and you surround yourself with “gym rats” you will likely to achieve your goal of having that desired body. That result will be achieved in an easier way than if you did it yourself.

On the other hand, if you surround yourself with people who are going to a different direction then your journey will be harder and you will need longer time to reach your destination, if you could reach it. Going back to the gym example and compare the result you will get if you want to have a nice body but your friends have no desire in going to gym. You can achieve your goal but it will be harder on you.

 Some people forego the chance of personal growth and development because they do not have anyone supporting them. They feel that they will not make it on their own. Maybe they need someone who pushes them on when they are close to giving in, or their friends and family are even obviously against their plans. Saoirse OMara

People around us can be obstacles on our way but they can also be an aid that make our experience easier and more beautiful.

 

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Overcoming Obstacles 1-3

 

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Personal growth is an important factor for anyone seeks happiness and satisfaction in this life. The good news is that desired happiness/satisfaction can be achieved. It is not impossible, and it is doable. On our way from where we at to where we want to be a lot of obstacles will be thrown on our way. Dealing with these obstacles is an essential part of personal growth. There are three obstacles I will highlight, people themselves, bad habits, and surroundings.

The first obstacle many people will face is themselves. I understand that it seems like there are many outer challenges that anyone of us can face. However, the inner obstacles have higher effects on our actions. There are many activities that can be classified as inner obstacles, here are the top three:

First, low self-esteem. Noting can stop a human from advancing in their life like a low self-esteem. I look at it as the top inner obstacle because of its numbing effect. Low self-esteem can produce a low valued dreams; therefore, low achievements and low personal growth. Low self-worth is a product of Low self-esteem, and without a high self-worth personal growth can’t be achieved.

Second, worrying too much about what can happen. Either what will actually happen or what people will feel about you once you fail. Fear is actually a natural emotion just like love and other emotions, but that fear shouldn’t stop you from going to where you want to be. Once fear become an obstacle rather than a protector then you have a problem.

Third, vague or undefined personal goals. So what are your personal goals? What are the things you want to achieve that will improve you personally? If you fail to identify where you at right now and where you want to be then you will definitely gain no personal growth in that section. Failing to identify what parts of your life and personality needs to be improved is an obstacle and you need to pay a close attention to it.

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Strategies to Deal With Bad Habits

 

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Getting rude of a bad habit is a rewarding; however, such activity can consume a lot of time and energy. In this blog I will be writing about some strategies to deal with bad habits that can save you some time and energy.

Dealing with multi bad habits

Each human have more than one bad habit, it is a normal part of being a human. Dealing with more than on bad habit can be easier than dealing with one habit at a time. However, this is only true if the two habits are complementary habits. For example, your weight is unhealthy and you wake up late every morning. Those two results could be caused by the fact that you stay up late and eat some unhealthy food all night long. To stop those two bad habits (staying up late and eating unhealthy food) you may be need to wake up early each morning and go to bed early as well. By doing so, you will be not only waking up early every morning, but you will stop eating unhealthy food during the night because you are already asleep. You can use the same approach to deal with other complementary bad habits once you realize their existence.

 

Dealing with a bad habit that is causing other bad habits

Some bad habits can develop other bad habits. For example, staying up too late can create other bad habits such as drinking and smoking. Knowing the “source habit” and dealing with it first can solve and eliminate the bad habits it created automatically.  Many of our bad habits are caused by another bad habit, target and attack the source first, that will save you a lot of time.

 

Replacing a bad habit with a good habit

It is good to stop smoking but is even better if you stop smoking and start running at the same time. It is good to stop being rude to others but it’s even better if you start treating them nice at the same time. It is good to stop your addiction to alcohol or to drugs but it is even better if you start developing a habit of helping others stop their addiction to alcohol or to drugs.

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Jerome Hines once said “The only proper way to eliminate bad habits is to replace them with good ones.”

 

Replacing a bad habit with a good one can work as a shield that will protect you from going back to that bad habit again. It is like building a wall around you, a wall of good habits where the bad ones can’t influence you anymore. Stopping bad habit will enhance personal growth. But nothing can enhance and increase personal growth like replacing a bad habit with a good habit. It is like doubling the speed of your personal growth.

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The Chain of Bad Habits

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Every person has good and bad habits, so unless you think you are perfect, you must have some bad habits at some point of your life, if not all of your life. There are three steps I think will help to deal with bad habits.

Acknowledge its existence

You cannot break a bad habit if you don’t recognize its existence. It is important to know that there are Habits that can be seen by others and habits that can’t be seen or feel by others. The first type is the actions that are noticed by people around you such as smoking, lying, and other bad habits.

The other type is the harder type to recognize, it’s what’s inside you, and it’s what no one else can see or feel but you. Recognizing this deep and personal bad habit is hard because they are unseen and many of them are unnoticed by the individual himself. it is hard to notice their existence because the person is used to them. Such feelings and habits have existed within that individual for a long period of time. They are used to it to the point where it is very normal and natural for them to act that way of feel this way. This type includes things such as jealousy, greedy, not wishing good for others or not wishing them happiness. The list is long but I hope you get my point.

No person can break a bad habit unless they acknowledge it is a habit and it is bad. If someone don’t admit those two parts then they are still in need to acknowledge that habit’s existence.

Understand the reasons behind its existence (when did it start, why, for how long?)

It might be the environment you lived in, the neighborhood you grew up in, or the role models in your life. Every human being was born ignorant and his knowledge is received by many means like parents and people around us. To deal with a bad habit we have to understand how we adopted it in the first place. Understanding such thing will help to control it and stop it.

Control it and stop it.

It is hard to stop a bad habit right away especially if you have been doing it for a long period of time. Therefore, a gradual process can be helpful. A clinical psychologist , Patricia Farrell, commented:

“The more you do it, the more difficult it is to get rid of it, but every single bad habit can be broken”

It is impossible to control and stop a bad habit if you didn’t acknowledge its existence or if you didn’t understand the reasons behind that existence. Moreover, understanding what are the benefits you will receive once you stop such habit.

Nothing can slow down or even block personal growth like bad habits. Knowing what bad habits we have and dealing with them can enhance personal growth and the quality of our life.

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Start The First Steps

 

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As I wrote in a previous post, knowing where you at, where you want to be, and how to get to there are the elements of sustainable personal growth.  If you find yourself unable to move toward your goal then you are either unaware of where you at, you don’t know where you want to be, or you don’t know how to get to there. If you fail to identify each one of these three element then you will not be able to reach where you want to be. Moreover, you can’t even start the first step.

If you understand who you are and where you at then the easiest way that will help you start moving is to find people like you with similar interests and goals. Spending time with people who share the same goals as you will motivate you and help you to start moving forward. It is also helpful to do some research about people who achieved what you want to achieve and find out how they started. What were their beginnings looked like? Among those people, find out who started at the same level you are at right now, know more about their starts.

Don’t be afraid to try, and don’t get tired of trying, who knows!! Maybe you will find what you are looking for the next time you try. There are many ways which can lead you to where you want; however, some of them are not meant to be open for you, accept that. You will find many open doors but that doesn’t mean they are all open for you, chose wisely. And if anything went wrong then you must know that you can’t change the history but you can only learn the lessons.

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Leaving Your Comfort Zone

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You know there is something has to be changed and you finally have the courage to change it; however, it seems to be a little bit harder than you though to begin that change. Starting that change means you will have to give up many things that are probably holding you down. However, you just can’t leave this environment, relationships, and daily routine; you seem to be unable to leave your comfort zone.

Comfort zone is a behavioral space where your activities and behaviors fit a routine and pattern that minimizes stress and risk. It provides a state of mental security. You benefit in obvious ways: regular happiness, low anxiety, and reduced stress”

Living in the comfort zone is very appealing to most of human. Live is easier, things are normal, and people are nice. It is good to live in your comfort zone as long as you are OK where you at

Comfort zone can be an illusion that will stop you from going behind your current level. When people are attempting to achieve their goals, they are seek a transition from where they are to where they want to be. And to start moving toward where they want to be they have to leave their comfort zone. Leaving comfort zone can be the hardest step. Generally, people cannot start moving toward their goals until they first leave their comfort zone. People who decide to leave such zone can suffer Optimal Anxiety. Optimal Anxiety is the feeling and the discomfort anyone could experience once they leave their comfort zone. Overcoming such feeling is critical for a successful transition. Otherwise, people who cannot fight that feeling are probably going to end up returning back to that comfort zone.

Once we get used to the new level that we achieve the comfort zone will start to shift away from the old level to that new level. That means the comfort zone is movable. You go out of your comfort, meet new people, and become exposed to new ideas. Comfort zone acts like a shield that is protecting you from what is outside. However, what is out there could be amazing. Living in a protected zone is not going to help you achieve what you want.

It is important to know that there are no achievements without challenges and sacrifices, leaving the comfort zone is the first one of all these challenges. As a Wiseman once said “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

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Overcoming Fear of Failure

 

 

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Being afraid of the failure is a natural thing. People can be cautious and afraid of the unknown, unpredictable, and uncertain. It is OK to be afraid of failure, it is actually part of the first step I have talked about. All of that is understandable. What is not natural though is when that fear becomes the main obstacle that is stopping us from moving forward. Moreover, that fear is stopping many of us from even trying to move forward.

Overcoming fear of failure can be done by doing what you are supposed to do anyway. Just do it, start moving. The most influential speakers were once afraid of failure but they did it anyway. For them, the second speech was more relaxing than the first one. That lead them to be more confident of their performance and. As a result of that they became successful. Successful entrepreneurs have also had that fear at the beginning of their careers. But overcoming that fear was the reason why they made it. The Law of Diminishing Return suggests that this kind of fear will go away gradually as you started taking actions, so start taking actions.

They all had fears but they managed to overcome them. If they didn’t try they wouldn’t reach where they are right now. Overcoming fears doesn’t guarantee desired successes or reaching your final destination, but it will put you on the right track to your final destination. However, not overcoming your fears will take you to nowhere and will deliver no results.

Develop a positive image of yourself and a positive attitude towards your surroundings. Know your self. Ask yourself, what’s the worst that could happen? If you fail then that does not mean you have lost. You could lose money and time while trying to achieve a certain goal, these are an unavoidable losses. But you could gain valuable experiences that you could not gain if you did not try. These experiences and struggles are what going to help you make it the next time you try. So yes, it is possible that you will fail; however, that fear shouldn’t stop you from starting the first step.

 

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Enough Waiting, Start Acting

 

 

Everyone has a dream or dreams, yet none of them will become a reality until we start doing something to achieve what we want. It is called taking action. A dream without an action can create an internal happiness, but that illusion will not last for a long time if there are no actions. On the other hand, an action without a dream or a goal will take us nowhere. It is like driving a car without knowing where you are going, you will reach a destination but it will not be a desired one. Knowing where you want to be is essential before any action is taken, before that comes Knowing where you are. To take an action is to decide to move a step further towards your goal.

Don’t wait for miracles to happen to you, you are the miracle. And if someone was able to reach where you want to be, why not you as well. It is OK to wait for a while, to question your dreams and desires, but don’t wait for too long. Life will continue anyway and nothing in the universe will be waiting for you forever, start acting. Chances don’t wait as well. if you have time and energy to act and work to get what you want then you better start doing that,  you might not be able to allocate the same amount of time and energy if you waited longer.

Everyone has a dream but few of them do actions to achieve them. So what are the reasons that are stopping many people from acting towards achieving what they believe is their goal and dream? Well I think there are six reasons why many people are Dreamful but Actionless:

  1. They are afraid of failure
  2. They are afraid of leaving their comfort zone
  3. They don’t know how to start
  4. They have bad habits.
  5. They are facing many obstacles.
  6. They don’t know what they are passionate about.

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The Real Self-Worth

 

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If personal growth is a human body, then self-worth is the heart to that body. Self-worth determines the speed as well as the duration of the desired personal growth. I say this simply because you attract to your life the thoughts and the people who match your perceived self-worth. And let me here distinguish between the perceived self-worth and actual self-worth.

Yes, every one of us has these two selves: actual and perceived. Perceived self-worth is the value we give ourselves based on our experiences, relationships, what others say about us, and other outside perspectives. Actual self-worth is who we truly are. In an ideal situation, Perceived Self-worth matches Actual Self-worth. Any differences between those two values of self-worth can lead to problems that will slow Personal Growth. What is more interesting than that, people we surround our self with and the thoughts we allow into our minds are what determine our choices. As a result, we attract to our lives the choices that match our perceived self-worth.

The first step towards improving your self-worth is to know yourself. You can’t improve yourself if you don’t know what level you are at right now. Regardless of what you think about yourself, “You are what you think”. If you think you can then you can, and if you believe you can’t, then you can’t. I am talking about achieving, almost anything in this life. If people underestimate themselves or feel Worthless, then it will be hard for them to achieve their goals. Feeling Worthless can undermine personal growth like nothing else.

It is understandable that many people feel like they are stuck in their lives and feel like they are not going anywhere. However, that feeling should not lead those people to think less of them self or feel like they are worthless. Personal growth depends on an individual perceived self-worth, if that worth is low then Personal growth will be low. A person who love himself can reach higher level of personal growth than a person who love himself less.

Knowing yourself is the first step to discovering your real worth. However, knowing yourself is not enough. While knowing yourself, you have to recognize whatever is holding you back and take the responsibility to change. Recognizing the issue is the first step towards knowing your self-worth. I wrote about the importance of recognizing who you are in the past, check it out.

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Knowing How to Reach Your Destination

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In my previous post, I stated that personal growth can be triggered by knowing three things. These things are knowing where you atKnowing where you want to be, and how to get to there. In this post, I will be touching on the subject of going from where you are to where you want to be. It is a process that has a start and has an end, another start and another end, and so on.

Deciding what areas to focus on can be critical at this stage. If you answered the two questions, where you are and where you want to be, then you know what areas you would want to focus on such as relationships, money, or personal issues. What I suggest, is to start working on your weaknesses first. I said that simply because dealing with your weaknesses first can enhance your personal growth much more than focusing on your strengths. Moreover, your strengths can be overwhelmed by your weaknesses. Think about it.

The first step is the hardest step. Once you start moving toward where you want to be, then you should be aware of what is in front of you. The first step is what you will be facing first. That can be the first book to read and summarize, the first cigarette to reject, the first session at the gym, or the first million dollar to make. Hence, the first step can be short or long, a few minutes or a few years, regardless of its length or difficulty, it is something you have to go through and pass because your success depends on passing it.

According to the law of diminishing return, things will get easier with time. You become aware of doing them, you have more knowledge, and your goal is clearer. The hardest sessions at the gym are the first ones, the hardest cigarettes to reject are the first ones, and the hardest millions to make are the first ones. Things become easier after that and what was a challenge at the beginning will becomes a normal thing to do. What was a dream yesterday became today’s reality.

After you passed the first step, the second one is to be consistent. By starting the first step now you know what going toward your destination feels like and how much effort it takes. Consistency is what will take you to where you want to be. Small steps every day are better than nothing. As long as you know where you are, what you want, and you are consistent with what you are doing, then you will reach your destination, no doubt.

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