As I mentioned in my other post, high expectations should be applied to ourselves not to others. Seeking happiness through giving to others implies that you should rise up your expectations of yourself and lower your expectations of what you are going to receive from others.
Reach out to others and offer your help. Most of people will not ask for help even if they needed it, their dignity is stopping them from asking for it. Help them, give them a hand, and give them hope when they are hopeless. That can be achieved through helping them overcome some obstacles or even dealing with bad habits or any other matters.
“In my life I’ve learned that true happiness comes from giving. Helping others along the way makes you evaluate who you are. I think that love is what we’re all searching for. I haven’t come across anyone who didn’t become a better person through love”— Marla Gibbs.
Once you help someone then complete your action by keeping it between you and them. No one else needs to know about you helping others. If you are doing it so people will know that you are a good person (look at him!! he is so generous and kind) then that all what you will get. You will gain publicity or maybe a good reputation but no true happiness will be achieved. Talking about the good things you did to others can consume the happiness you will be getting before it reaches you.
The ultimate form of nobility is achieved through helping others for no other reason than to help them. The best kind of giving is when you give without seeking any return, not even a small or smaller return on that. Not even happiness. You are giving to others because you feel it is your obligation to help them and that’s it. You might receive back good words, or even good feeling; however, you are doing it without waiting for anything in return.
“Giving back is as good for you as it is for those you are helping, because giving gives you purpose. When you have a purpose-driven life, you’re a happier person” — Goldie Hawn
By giving to others, without attaching any expectations to it, you are actually giving to yourself a lot more than what you give to others. You will be receiving happiness.
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